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How To Tell If You're Dating A Boy or Man

I LOVE Essence.com and every time I find something that is vital to not only my SophistiKats but my men as well I like to share. One of my FAVorites (in case you haven't noticed by now. .LoL!!) is the "Modern Day Matchmaker" Paul Carrick Brunson. Last month he shared a few tell/TELL signs of how distinguish weather the guy you are dating/in a relationship with is a boy or if he has made the transition to truly being a man. These are the TOP 7* signs with a few others. .and guys if you take notice. .you might be clamming to be something you are not. .just yet :") Enjoy


Sometimes, ideas for posts come to me in conversation, sometimes based on what I read, and others I'm inspired by the real situations my clients are in. But believe it or not, my all time favorite source for ideas is Twitter. I find the social media platform to be the best pulse to find out what’s of interest in our lives.

Ive seen a lot of chatter on Twitter about people's opinion on the difference between a boy and a man. I wasn’t compelled to respond until I saw several tweets articulating age as an important factor. While I believe age is part of the equation, let’s be clear: not every boy becomes a man.

Here are the top seven differences between boys and men. Ladies, listen up.


Does He Have Goals?
“The man is aiming at a goal; the boy is drifting aimlessly.” — Author Unknown

How Responsible Is He?
Men make and keep commitment, boys don’t.

What Does He Call You?
Boys want a “wifey”. Men want a wife.

Can He Communicate?
A boy tells you about his day. A man will ask you about yours, and listen.

Does He Accomplish or Destroy?
Boys consume. Men produce.

Can You Trust Him?
You can put your trust in a man. Your trust is always lost with a boy.

Does He Know Who He Is?
Boys dress, talk, and act like everyone else. Men emulate no one.

Does He Want to Stimulate His Mind?
Men are never afraid to ask questions. Boys think they have it all figured out.

What Are His Beliefs?
Boys believe nothing is greater than themselves. Men believe in a higher power.

Is He Serious About His Future?
Boys chase girls and women. Men chase family.

Does He Pick Up the Phone?
Boys send text messages. Men call.

What Is His Purpose?
Boys exist in stagnation. Men embrace change.

Does He Have Baggage?
Boys have liabilities. Men possess assets.

How Does He Handle the First Date?
Boys split the check. Men pay.

How He Handles Adversity?
Boys become selfish. Men are selfless.

Visit http://www.essence.com for more advice in the Love and Dating department.
Also don't forget to Follow @PaulCBrunson on Twitter

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