Saturday, July 30, 2011

Red Tails



Lucas Films will be heating up a Motion Picture screen near you January 20, 2012. 2 weeks before Black History Month one of the many stories of the Prestigious Tuskegee Airmen (the first African American pilots to fly combat squadron in World War II) will be brought to Light. 
This film has an outstanding cast featuring Terrance Howard, Cuba Gooding, Jr. ,
Ne-Yo, Nate Parker, Kevin Phillips, Tristan Wilds, and believe it or not Method Man.
Written by none other than George Lucas. The Power House behind Lucas Films and Blockbuster's such as Star Wars and Indiana Jones Adventures we know that it will not lack in action or suspense. We are happy to see another feature film depicting a piece of our history hitting the screen. 
Check out the Trailer and tell us what you think. In the mean time, we will be patiently awaiting Red Tails.

Thursday, July 7, 2011

6 Ways to Approach a Man


Nobody Wants to Look Desperate


On the day I announced the Ultimate Summer Dating Challenge, my twitter timeline exploded with questions and comments. Some tweeted statements of gratitude like “thanks so much for making me step out of my comfort zone.” While others tweeted thoughts of distaste like, "men do the chasing and women should be the prey…period!” Despite the variety of commentary, there is one question that has stood out as the most frequent…so much so that I estimate for every 10 questions I get, this is one of them "Paul, how do I approach a man (without looking desperate)?”


The Secret Weapon

I wish I could tell you there was one secret line to instantly lock in that Lance Gross-looking brotha, but there isn’t. I’ve never seen a one liner work for everyone. As a matter of fact, I can’t tell you I’ve seen a particular approach work for everyone (although the damsel in distress ranks high as a universally effective approach). So, if there are no exact words or methods of approaching, am I saying to just jump out there with no strategy? Of course not tactics without strategy is the noise before defeat (Sun-Tzu).

What I have witnessed as effective strategy lies within the elements of the approach, which are no different for a woman approaching a man as they are for a man approaching a woman – we basically react to the same stimuli. What follows is from my observations, reading, and experiences with clients. I’ve distilled the strategy to 6 rules, that when applied collectively, will optimize your approach.


Rule 1: Be Confident

This is easier said than done, but the good news is that everyone has the ability to convey confidence (see Confidence Is Sexy: 10 Ways To Show It). Whenever you approach someone, know that your confidence (or lack thereof) will reach him before your perfume hits their nostrils or your words vibrate through their ears.


Rule 3: Smile

Hands down, when I surveyed men, this is what they say they see the least (a smile). They also mentioned that bottom line is that most of their decision to accept an approach (to go out on a date) is based on this rule and Rule 2. Bonus points are awarded if you don’t just carry a smile but can tell a good joke. Humor ALWAYS wins!



Rule 4: K.I.S.S. (Keep it Simple Sweetheart)

“Hello, my name is ______, what is your name?" is all it takes for a strong introduction. When it comes to asking for the date, simplicity also wins: "I really enjoyed talking with you, I would love to continue the conversation, how about we get together this weekend. Are you free?” That’s all it takes.



Rule 5: Stand Out

The one thing we all have in common about who we are seeking, is that we all want someone extraordinary…spending your life with just “anyone” never is appealing. Outside of humor, I’ve observed that people who can quickly distinguish themselves as unique are looked at favorably. Now, don’t overdo it! Just because you can crochet a sweater while hanging upside down on a pole doesn’t mean it should be shared in a first conversation (although I’m sure that takes a unique skill set).



Rule 6: Muffle Your Chatterbox

I’ve seen so many good initial conversations nosedive because someone couldn’t stop talking. Remember that everyone wants to feel heard. If you’re talking nonstop, you stifle that feeling. Also, those who talk profusely tend to look desperate. If you feel it’s your natural inclination to talk a lot, be very conscious of this rule.

This brought to you by Paul C. Brunson via http://www.essence.com
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Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Keeping it Natural and Hot for July

Earlier this year we covered some of the HoTTest trends for Spring and Summer 2011. 
One of those trends featured Tribal prints, wedge heels, and of course nature inspired accessories (wooden bracelets, metal inspired earrings, etc.) 
For July 2011 it looks like all of those trends are colliding to one look. .Natural and Beautiful.

Colors:
 July's fashion trend tends to be white or light in neutrals and naturals, with linen or cotton featured as a favorite fashion fabric. 

Tips on how to keep Sophisticated and Fly:
Choose clothing that's White or light in color to reflect the sun's rays.
Opt for cotton or linen fabrics to keep cool.


To keep wrinkles at a minimum, choose cotton or linen blends.


Great choices for natural summer style include jewelry with wooden beads, shoes with cork heels, and handbags made of straw. It's all about an easy, breezy month, with a light neutral color palette ruling the day.



Chinese Laundry Cork Heel Wedge Sandal $69.00

Jessica Simpson, Tribeca Straw Satchel $98.00

Lucky Brand, Glass and Wooden Bracelet $35.00


The #1 Killer of Women

Most young 21st century women have the "Super Woman" complex. A feelings of being invincible when it comes to doing, achieving, or handling ANYTHING that may come our way.
However most of us know that way of thinking doesn't help when things "hit the fan".
One thing we are ALL about is keeping our SophistiKats up to date on what is important, on all levels. Nothing can be stressed more than keeping your health in order and most all your TOP priority. 

We always hear on television and in women's health magazines about Breast Cancer being the #1 Killer of women. At one point there was truth to that statement but now any form of Cancer ranks as the #2 Killer of women. So with that being said, You ask the question
"What is the #1 Killer of Women? None other than Heart Disease.




It’s easy to miss heart attack symptoms at the initial stages because symptoms show up differently in women than in men. In fact, the top four symptoms are often misdiagnosed. Immediate intervention can mean life or death, so it’s a good idea for all women to be aware of the warning signs of heart attacks.

Symptoms of heart attack in Women

Most heart attacks start slowly with mild pain or discomfort. Here are the symptoms of heart attack in women:

*Shortness of breath (May occur with or without chest discomfort.)
*Nausea and light-headedness
*Flu-like symptoms (Including chills and cold sweats)
*Heart palpitations
*Chest discomfort (Angina): Pain, Tightness or pressure in the center of the chest that lasts more than a few minutes, or that goes away and comes back
*Discomfort in other areas (Including pain or discomfort in: one or both arms (especially the left arm), the back, between the shoulder blades, neck, jaw or stomach)
*Heartburn or indigestion
*Extreme fatigue

Provided below is the information concerning Stroke Prevention. (Which goes hand in hand with heart disease and is listed as the #3 Killer of Women)

Symptoms of stroke in Women

Strokes are not as common as heart attacks, but can come on without warning. Here are signs that a stroke may be occurring:

*Sudden numbness or weakness of the face, arm or leg, especially on one side of the body
*Sudden confusion, trouble speaking or understanding
*Sudden trouble seeing in one or both eyes
*Sudden trouble walking, dizziness, loss of balance or coordination
*Sudden, severe headache with no known cause

It’s worth noting that in some women symptoms of heart problems, like palpitations, chills or faintness, may actually be symptoms of pre-menopause. However, if you are experiencing these symptoms, you should see your health care practitioner.