Sunday, May 5, 2013

SophistiKat: Dose of Soul

Ahhhhhhhhh. .Jeff Bradshaw ;")
Anywhoo. .it's Sunday and what better day to enjoy a little Soul music

Here is another FAVorite of mine "Til Tomorrow" feat Raheem DeVaughn and Mrs. Jade


SophistiKat: Dessert of the Month

I love custard and I love tarts!!
Keeping with healthy and refreshing desserts I choose a spring/summer classic.
With the tasty zest of lemon and sweet crust this is the perfect combination.

Lemon Curd  Tart

Ingredients (Lemon Curd)
4 large eggs, plus 4 large egg yolks
1 1/3 cups sugar
2/3 cup fresh lemon juice (about 4 lemons)
10 tablespoons unsalted butter, cut into pieces

In a small saucepan (off heat), whisk together eggs, egg yolks, sugar, lemon juice, and a pinch of salt until smooth; add butter.

Place pan over medium heat. Cook, stirring constantly with a wooden spoon or heatproof flexible spatula, until lemon curd is thickened to the consistency of a loose pudding, about 8 to 10 minutes.

Pour curd through a fine-mesh sieve into cooled crust. Cool to room temperature. Refrigerate tart until filling is firm, 2 to 3 hours. Unmold before serving.

Ingredients (Press In Crust)
1 1/4 cups all-purpose flour, plus more for fingers and measuring cup
1/2 cup cold unsalted butter, cut into pieces
1/3 cup sugar
1/4 teaspoon salt

Pulse flour, butter, sugar, and salt only until moist crumbs form.

Transfer dough to a 9-inch round tart pan with a removable bottom; with floured fingers, press evenly into bottom and up side of pan.

With a floured dry-measuring cup, press edge of dough firmly against side of pan, pushing down with opposite thumb to level top of crust flush with rim.

Freeze until firm, 10 to 15 minutes; prick all over with a fork. Bake at 350 degrees.until golden, pressing with a spoon if it puffs up, 25 to 30 minutes; cool completely. Use crust for lemon-curd tart, if desired.

Enjoy ;")

Tyler Perry's "The Haves and the Have Nots"

Check out this sneak peak of Tyler Perry's NEW show coming exclusively to Oprah Winfrey's OWN. ."The Haves and the Have Nots"

Here's the low down on the show. .

The show follows the complicated dynamic between the rich and powerful Cryer family and the hired help who work in their opulent Savannah, Georgia, mansion.

From the outside, the Cryers are the enviable face of success and wealth, but behind the veil, the family's dysfunction threatens to destroy their world of privilege. Cryer family patriarch Jim Cryer (John Schneider) is a powerful judge whose double life, including tawdry affairs with high-priced escorts, puts his family and political ambitions at risk. His wife, Katheryn Cryer (Renée Lawless), is the ultimate matriarch, portraying a loving and dutiful wife, but she is willing to do anything to protect her family's status. Their son, Wyatt (Aaron O'Connell), is a troubled, angry jock who cares little for his own image and finds himself in and out of rehab. His sister, Amanda (Jacyln Betham), a struggling law student, tries harder to live up to her parents' expectations but unknowingly has befriended a scurrilous young woman, Candace Young, with the power to ruin the entire family.

Hanna Young (Crystal Fox) is the Cryers' maid and the matriarch of her family. Despite having no money, she has found other types of wealth through religion and virtue. She prides herself on her dutiful son, Benny (Tyler Lepley), the glue who helps keep the family together. Hanna does have one dark secret, however—her estranged daughter, Candace (Tika Sumpter), a manipulative opportunist who will stop at nothing to get what she wants. In a bizarre coincidence, Candace is shocked to find out that her newfound friend Amanda's father is Jim Cryer, the very man who has been paying her for sex and who also employs Candace's mother as his family's maid. Armed with this knowledge, the stage is set for what will be, in Candace's eyes, the opportunity of a lifetime.

Other characters in the series include the Cryers' chef Celine (Eva Tamargo), their wealthy friends Veronica (Angela Robinson) and David Harrington (Peter Parros), and Wyatt Cryer's rehabilitation counselor, Jeffery Harrington (Gavin Houston).

I don't know about you. .but I ready to #TuneIN


Stop Fronting and Find Yourself

By Coach Felicia T. Scott
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Discover Your Worth! I froze when she suggested that we head to such an expensive restaurant. It really wasn’t in my budget, but I still heard myself saying, “That would be great!” I didn’t even enjoy my meal—maybe the taste of regret had something to do with it. I kicked myself for fronting and not telling my friend the truth.

Most of us are familiar with putting up a front. There are times in life when we feel like a fraud but it is rooted in a sub-conscious lack of understanding our worth. But sometimes, we KNOW that we are deliberately giving others the wrong impression. Our intent isn’t malicious, but we are ashamed of the truth, so we live the lie.

Pretending tires us out…fast! It’s uncomfortable wearing images that simply don’t fit. Maturity demands that we tell the truth and take responsibility for doing the things that “represent” us.

We don’t have to display everything like a reality-TV show. We just need to be comfortable with ourselves—accepting of who we are, where we are and what we have. Learning self-acceptance is foundational to respect and acceptance from others.

This experience reminded me that in order to be comfortable in our skin, we must remember to:

1. Practice Self-inspection: We must seek to understand our motivations. We need to understand why we do what we do and examine our actions, attitudes and feelings under the light of truth. Why do we do things we don’t want to? Is it fear of rejection? Do we not like someone because of jealousy or are there other issues involved?

Understanding self, lays the foundation for better relationships. When we can truthfully deal with our “good, bad and ugly,” we are better equipped to give others the grace and truth needed for their growth and development. Furthermore, it helps us to recognize when we are mislabeling qualities in others. For example, our insecurities might cause us to be uncomfortable with confident people. If we aren’t honest, we might distance ourselves from those people instead of learning the habits and thoughts that can help us grow more in this area.

2. Own Up: There will be times when we don’t have the capacity to meet the needs of others or be what others need us to be. That is a painful truth to accept—especially when we want to help someone we love. Knowing our limits is key to self-acceptance.

When we realize that something is beyond our emotional, physical, financial or spiritual bandwidth, we have the responsibility to do one of two things:

1. Be honest. Accept our limitations and step out of the way so someone else can meet the need. It can be heartbreaking to not help the people we love, but just because we can’t do it doesn’t mean that they can’t be helped.

2. Stretch to develop the capacity needed. If the shortfall between our capacity and the need can be fixed, then we must commit to developing the skills and/or doing what it takes for us to stand in truth in our relationship.

Do Your Work! Examine your life and find out where you may be fronting. Journal about that issue and come clean with someone you trust. Ask them to help you brainstorm ways to eliminate fronting and begin to apply them.

Define Your Wealth! Affirm out loud, “Today, I am all that I need to be. I thank God for the lessons that will help me be who I need to be tomorrow!”

Recently named the “North America’s Next Greatest Speaker” by eWomenNetwork, Felicia T. Scott is a Certified Empowerment Coach™ who empowers her clients to turn their Worth into Wealth as she partners with them to DISCOVER their WORTH, DO the WORK and DEFINE their WEALTH.  Get more insight, download the FREE “8 Choices Winners Must Make” seminar MP3 on her website.