Thursday, October 17, 2013

11 Qualities Men Love Most

Hmm. .now I'm sure after seeing the title everyone is thinking  thinking "What is this about?".
Well according to Kevin Carr there are specifically 11* things men just absolutely LOVE and can't do without.

A little about Kevin Carr. .

Dating Coach and motivational speaker Kevin Carr is the author of "If All Men Are Dogs: Then Women You Hold the Leash", and the new eBook "Date Responsibly: Choosing Better Men".

Here we go. .

#1 Honesty
Real men respect an honest woman. In fact, they yearn for one. A woman that possesses the ability to be open and honest about what she wants is one that can clearly articulate how she does and doesn't feel. There's nothing like it. In a world full of surface interaction your candidness can be refreshing for him.

#2 Empathy

There are a lot of cases where he doesn't necessarily want to be "right.” He simply wants to be understood. He will never be able to understand in totality what it's like to be a woman in this world just as you will never be able to fathom what it takes for him to be a man. That's perfectly fine. However, if you can find it within you to be aware enough to recognize he has a different perspective and to try to see life from his view, he will be forever grateful. This will only prompt him to do the same for you.

#3 Acceptance
One of the worse things you can do is judge a man, especially when it comes to his past life before you. He isn't asking for forgiveness; he's merely seeking your acceptance. If he can become comfortable in divulging who he's been then you'll never have to guess who he is.

#4 Trustworthy
If he has proven himself to be trustworthy then trust him. He needs to know that you believe in his character. It strengthens him. He isn't asking you to love blindly but just not be consumed with hypotheticals.

#5 Goal Driven
Every secure goal-driven man is looking for the same in a woman. To know that you have plans outside of him is a true turn on. This actually helps to keep him in check and lets him know there are things in your life that are bigger than him.

#6 Homemaker
I am not suggesting that you walk around with an apron on all day baking biscuits. He isn't looking for that. But, what he is looking for is someone that can turn a house into a home. He's seeking someone who is able to give his life some much-needed balance. Yes he needs security as well, especially when it comes to sharing his day-to-day life with you.

#7 Supportive
Every man needs a support system. He wants you to genuinely believe in him. There are more than enough critics in the world. Be his fan and support his worthwhile dreams. If the woman who has his heart believes in him, it will only cause him to become a better man.

#8 Down-to-Earth
There's nothing like a woman that's down for whatever and comfortable in her stilettos and his Jordan's as well. He relishes this quality as it allows him to put his guard down and helps to do away with his preoccupation to always impress you with flashy dates and things.

#9 A Firm Foundation
He loves that you have standards and he loves it even more that you stick to them. Standards give him something to live up to. Real men don't mind them, and in fact, your standards cause them to rise up to the level to which they have been set.

#10 Authenticity
He appreciates when you are exactly who you say you are at all times. As much as he wants you to be empathetic and understanding, he doesn't want you to pull punches. He would love to read your mind, but he can't. So, speak it. He will appreciate and respect you for it.

#11 Drive
Everybody loves a hustler. Someone who works hard at whatever it is they are doing. That is a sexy trait on a woman if there ever was one. Such a quality not only turns him on but will also encourage him to work even harder at his respective dreams and endeavors.

I don't know about you all but all 11 apply to both what men/women want and NEED. .
Give me your take. .Let's chat about this. .Leave a comment~*



If you haven't figured out by now. .I am a music LOVER!! You will see my FAVorite songs of all genres posted here and I love to highlight my FAV artist.

Allllllllllll the Buzz from the BET Hip Hop Awards has the internet going CRAZY!! From the return of Juvenile and Mannie Fresh on stage with 2 Chainz and of course the legendary Bone Thugs N Harmony (Come ON!! It's the firrst of the mooooonth!!).

HOWever. .the Cypher that Shut It DOWN was delivered from none of than TDE. I love me some Kendrick Lamar. .but this shout out is for a young cat who clearly ripped his bars like no other Isaiah Rashad!!

The 21 year old from Chattanooga, TN has already been proclaimed as one the Hottest "Up and Coming" MC's in the game. With sharp and straight to the point bars he truly has something that the game has been missing.

Here are a few exerts from Eric Diep's XXL interview. .

On growing up in Chattanooga, TN:
Growing up in Chattanooga, Tennessee is probably as normal as it is growing up in Oregon. It’s the same as anywhere else, coming out [to Los Angeles] really help me see that. The people that I am surrounded by remind me the most of the people I was around from where I am from—like my family. In comparison, it feels a lot the same. It wasn’t like a crazy adjustment coming here. It was like moving into another house with my family.

On signing to TDE:
I don’t really have a straight answer for why [me being signed] was under wraps for so long. It just made sense. Just because I got signed doesn’t mean we have to put it out today. It wasn’t really anybody’s business to do it. We are trying to make the best product possible. The more people know, the more pressure it is. Even if it ain’t real pressure, it’s the more pressure to put on the staff and everybody and cater to the people. This is what we do. We’re artists. We do it for the people and we do it for people who enjoy music. You don’t want to let them down, but you don’t want them looking for some stuff for the longest and checking for some stuff. Basically, you want them to enjoy it. You want them to enjoy the experience of waiting for the project.

On what he wants to accomplish as an artist:
I didn’t come into it with super high expectations of like, “When I drop my first song, I am going to have a couple thousand people looking at my stuff.” [“I Shot Ya Down”] isn’t the first song I dropped. The first song I put out, it did what I thought it was going to do. I did real local stuff. It got two-three hundred views in the first couple of days. To me, that’s the same as 300,000 when don’t know nobody know who you are. I just worked on that. I worked on perfecting how I wanted to communicate with people and the right ways to put out music and everything. Seeing how I am accepting now is more like, “Alright cool. Finally learning the right way to do some of this stuff.” Learn how to build anticipation and all this type of stuff. All it is is a big learning experience.

Read the full interview here:

All I can say is that I am always extremely proud of those who grind in their city to see their dreams become a reality!! I know that their will be great things and of course great music to come from Isaiah Rashad!! Go Head!!

Check out his video for " I Shot You Down"

Represent!! #ChattTown #FourTwoThree


Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Losing my grandmother to Breast Cancer was one of the hardest things I've faced in my life. Watching my mother take care of her day end and day out was truly life changing.
She fought like a Champion till the end and may she continue to REST in PEACE.

This month support and show that you are AWARE of the fight to find a cure for Breast Cancer.
Make a donation in honor of a loved one, friend, or just to show you care to the Sisters Network.

The Sisters Network® Inc. (SNI) is a leading voice and only national African American breast cancer survivorship organization in the United States. Sisters Network is governed by an elected Board of Directors and assisted by an appointed medical advisory committee.

Membership is 3000, which includes more than 40 affiliate survivor run chapters nationwide.
The organization’s purpose is to save lives and provide a broader scope of knowledge that addresses the breast cancer survivorship crisis affecting African American women around the country.

Also support by purchasing OPI's "Pink of Hearts 2013" Collection

Featuring two Jazzy shades "More than a Glimmer" and "Pink-ing of You"

Don't forget to ROCK your PINK all month long!!

Get out and be involved all year. Visit the links below to see how you can help.

American Cancer Society 

Susan G.  Komen

Sisters Network


SophistiKat "Drink of the Month"

I have been slipping with posting my "Drink of the Month" favorites. We are already close to the end of October but there are still a few Homecomings, HBCU Classics, and of course just other good time/chill events left. I wanted to keep it simple but true to the kick off of Fall and cool weather. Here is a very subtle, smoothy, and tasty Martini that can be plugged in and enjoyed at any event.

The Amber Martini

3 1/2 oz Ciroc Vanilla Vodka
1/2 oz Frangelico
1/2 oz Amaretto
1 or 2 cut and sliced Red Apples

Pour contents into Mixer/Shaker
Shake all ingredients over ice until they are well chilled
Strain into a chilled Martini glass
Garnish each glass with a slice of apple

Voila. .you are ready to sip and chill ;")


Oh Mack. .~*

A good friend of mine called me last night. .
"Yo L!! You've got to hear lil dude from the Wire's album". .
Of course I was like "Who? What?" (mind you I am sick too. .Glory. .LoL!!)
"It's FIRE!! GO to iTunes and cop it stat!!"
The way I was feeling at that moment. .was "Child BYE!!"LoL!!

However I am a sucker for GREAT music. He text the name and album title. .Low and behold. .

It was the debut LP from the oh so Handsome Tristan Wilds aka Mack Wilds!! I have been a fan of the young actor since his days on "The Wire". .90210. .and of course "Red Tails" (Yes Lawd!! That was an outstanding and HANDSOME cast) so I honestly didn't know what to expect from him pursuing music. I remembered seeing the "Own IT" video this summer. .but didn't think to much about it.

Over the past few months there has been a buzz about Tristan taking a break from acting to pursue a career in music.  We hear this A LOT from actors, athletes , etc and sometimes they just don't deliver.  (Sad but true) With Mack Wilds. .that is not the case!!

I purchased the album and immediately began to listen. .and I was SHOCKED!! Now I am the type of person that I don't start with the first track on the album, I listen to the first title that jumps out at me. .and that was "Art of Fallin'". People giving their opinion on what "fallin"/"love" is put against an almost old school track (reminisce of a Slick Rick beat).  I then listened to "Keepin It Real", "A NY Love Story" (I love to rock my french manicure!! Signature mani for a SophistiKat), "Wild Things" feat Method Man, "U Can Cry to Me" feat Raekwon and Dougie Fresh (It doesn't get any more NY than that). . then. .Child. .Glory. .I listened to "Don't Turn Me Down" and BayBAE it was a wrap!! I melted straight out of my bed!!  (I also found the video to this track. .and I must say. .Mack is a MAN!!)

This brother has delivered!! So many people are truly blessed to multi talented and Mack is one of those people. I was a fan before but I am sold on the music now too!! Please don't sleep on this album and purchase it today. I promise you won't regret it!!

Purchase via iTunes:

Check out his brief documentary "New York: A Love Story" and get a glimpse at who Tristan "Mack" Wilds is. .(I seriously was wondering where "Mack" came from. .)