Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Old Fashioned Dating Rules for the NEW YEAR 2013

The "Modern Day Matchmaker" Paul C. Brunson is at it again and getting us IN ORDER for the NEW YEAR. .2013!!

For my single ladies out there. .these are just a few of many "ole school" rules to live by.
Chivalry IS NOT dead we just have to stick to our standards and allow REAL men to show and prove just that ;") Check these out. .

Always Look Your Best
Attraction is very primal. We’re attracted to “good looks.” That said, you never know when you may meet that special someone at the supermarket, gas station or on the street. If you always look your best, you’ll always stand the best chance of securing a date.

Confidence Is Sexy
Men love a woman with confidence. Be sure to smile, keep your back straight, listen attentively, walk with your shoulders back and speak slowly. This will make you seem confident, even if you are quivering with nervousness inside.

Bad Breath Kills
Nothing kills chances of a kiss, or a second date, like bad breath. If your breathy conversation has been malodorous, chances are your date will likely extend you a hand at the end of the evening. Visit the dentist regularly, practice healthy brushing habits at home and always carry mints!

We Show Our Respect With Our Time
If he’s 5-10 minutes late, he may be pulling a Diddy, and trying to make an entrance. However, 10 minutes plus, with no phone call, is simply rude. Multiple incidents like this show you exactly how much respect he has for your time.

Gentleman Offer to Pay
This rule will be debated for the next 1000 years, and for the next 1000 years the answer will be the same. If he’s a gentleman, he’ll offer to pay on the first date (regardless of who asks). If he doesn’t, it doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy, but it does mean his chivalry skills are lacking.

Good Manners Are Telling
We should all know that having good manners and saying “please” and “thank you” never ever goes out of style, especially on a date.

Why Buy the Cow, When You Can Get the Milk for Free?
Don’t rush sexual intimacy. Early sex is one surefire way to ruin a relationship. Make him prove his love for you before you get intimate. This rule is gospel!

Know When It's On To the Next One
Don’t make excuses! If he doesn’t call after the first date, he’s not interested. Move on. Creating a fantasy is a waste of time.

Ain’t Nothin’ Open After Midnight ‘Cept Legs
Don’t accept requests for late meetings with your new guy. If he has respect for you and your time, he will make plans for a more decent dating hour. Otherwise, beware that he’s only looking for a booty call.

Body Language Says More
Avoid fidgeting with your hair or clothes; this signals insecurity. Remember that only one third of communication is about the words you speak.

No "Your Mama" Talk
Avoid criticizing his mom (or yours). This will cause anyone to become defensive – or view you as not being family oriented – which is popular non-negotiable.

Don't Offer Too Much Too Early
People like people they can’t figure out in one evening. Don’t divulge too much and keep your dates short. Short dates will keep him longing for more.

Honesty Is the Best Policy
Drama is avoided when we tell the truth. There must be a balance you strike with this rule and the former because omitting the truth is also lying.

A Man Without A Plan Isn't Ready for You
If you find yourself having the “what do you want to do tonight” conversation on the first, second and third dates, chances are, he’s just not that into you.

Be A Lady
Even if you can fart Amazing Grace without missing a beat, avoid boasting about this on your first date. Trust me, even if he is crass with his boys, he will find vulgarity unappealing in the woman he is dating.

You Will Kiss A Few Frogs Before You Meet Your Prince
Do not be discouraged when it seems that your dates have never lead to anything meaningful. That’s what dating is about, going out with new people to get to know more about your likes and deal breakers and to get better at your own social skills. Your prince is out there!

Phone Calls Win
Modern technology has provided a million and one ways to contact potential dates – email, text, Facebook message, and by tweet to name a few. No matter how far technology advances, the phone call will always be the best way to connect (aside from in-person). All methods other than by phone are simply not as brave, direct or clear.

It's What He Does, Not What He Says
Actions speak louder than words… PERIOD!

Unveiling Vulnerability = Love
When they show you they are vulnerable, that’s when they show you they’re in love. He has let his guard down to let you in.

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NBC's Deception

Everyone knows I LOVE a good show!! Especially one with suspense and a good story line. (i.e. my LOVE for Scandal)

NBC has decided to step up their game and bring what I believe to be one of the Hottest new shows of the Winter season. .Deception starring the beautiful Megan Good (Jumping the Broom, Stomp the Yard, Deliver Us From Eva) and the Oh SO Handsome and talented Laz Alonso (Jumping the Broom, Stomp the Yard, Avatar, and This Christmas. .just to name a few).

The Plot:
When Vivian Bowers, a famous socialite, is found dead from what appears to be an overdose, her best friend, Detective Joanna Locasto (Megan Good), is re-embraced by the wealthy Bowers family and in time she begins to uncover the truth of what really happened with her friend's death.

Let me tell you. .if you have ONDemand you need to check out the FIRST episode via NBC (available until Jan 13)!!

I watched it on Christmas Eve and when I say this show will have you on the edge of your seat, bed, or wherever you are watching. .GET READY!!

Deception will be premiering January 7, 2013 at 10:00pm (est) and as you can see. .I will be TUNED IN!! The Bowers are a MESS ya'll and I can't wait to see what all is in store. .and of course get my Laz fix ;")


Aspire TV Highlights. .Deanna Burrell

BIG Shout Out and Congrats to one of THEE Hottest authors and a true SophistiKat Deanna Burrell for being highlighted by Aspire TV!! Her book "Single Girl Summer" is the

In case you don't have your copy pick ORDER TODAY!!

Also check out her website for information on her Blog "Red Cup Adventures" and to purchase PHly SGS apparel . .

And be sure to tune in to Aspire TV and be on the LOOKOUT for her Highlight ;")

Much LOVE and Keep up the AWEsome work Deanna!!


Just Because ;")

Luke James. .Luke James. .
This guy is blazing his way up the charts. .
Here is his NEW single "Make Love To Me". .Chiiiiild. .This man is BaDD ;")
Love the SONG and video cameos. .Kelly Rowland. .Omari Hardwick. .~*


Friday, December 21, 2012

SophistiKat "Drink of the Month"

Hey All ;")
I am a little late with this one but it's just in time for the weekend and the end of the month!!
This is a healthy blend and twist on my favorite drink "The Cosmopolitan"!!
This will be perfect cocktail to sip on while relaxing with friends after all the Christmas festivities or to bring in the NEW YEAR with.

Sparkling Charleston Cosmopolitan 


1 Cup Crushed Ice
3 Tablespoons Ciroc Premium Vodka
1 1/2 Tablespoons Peach Nectar
1 Tablespoon Orange Liqueur
1 Tablespoon Ocean Spray White Cranberry Juice
2 Lemon Wedges
2 Tablespoons Barefoot Pinot Grigio Sparkling Wine
Orange Slices

Combine crushed ice, vodka, peach nectar, orange liqueur, and white cranberry juice in a cocktail shaker.
Squeeze juice from lemon wedges into shaker.
Place wedges in shaker.
Cover with lid, and shake vigorously until thoroughly chilled (about 30 seconds).
Strain into a 6- to 8-oz. glass
Top with sparkling white wine.
Garnish glass with orange slice.

So try it out over the next 2 weeks and leave a comment letting me know what you think. Remember to always drink responsibly ;")


Tyler Perry's "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor"

Tyler Perry is definitely showing that there is more to him than Madea!!
The phenomenal play writer, director, and producer is back with yet another thriller.

Full of suspense, sex appeal, and a plot that thickens right up until the end "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor"  will keep you on the edge of your seat.

The Plot: A Marriage Counselor's (Jurnee Smollett) marriage and professional life becomes complicated after she enters into a relationship with one of her clients (Robbie Jones).

The sexy and talented Lance Gross plays Jurnee's husband ;")
Also featured is the FABulous Vanessa Williams, Brandy, and Kim Kardashian (Mmph. .side eye).

All I can say is I'm READY Mr. Perry!! March 29 GO CHECK IT OUT