Friday, December 30, 2011

Today In Black History

1842*

Josiah T. Walls born on this day in Winchester, VA, was elected to the U.S. Congress for the state of Florida.


1892*

Dr. Miles V. Lynk, a Physician, published the first Black medical journal.


1928*

Blues Composer and Singer Bo Didley was born in Magnolia ,Mississippi on this day.


1929*
The "Don't Buy Where You Can't Work" campaign began in Chicago with picketing of Chain stores on South Side Fall. The campaign spread to New York, Cleveland, Los Angeles and other cities and continued throughout the Depression.


1929*

Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, is Incorporated* on this day.


1929*

Mordecai W. Johnson received the "Spingarn Medal" for his work as the First Black President of Howard University.


1960*

Two U.S. courts issued temporary injunctions to prevent eviction of about seven hundred Black sharecroppers in Haywood and Fayette Counties in Tennessee.


1960* 

Poet Langston Hughes received the "Spingarn Medal" and cited as "The Poet Laureate of the Negro Race."

"The Single Ladies New Year's Pledge"


Written By: Charli Penn for Essence.com
Are there a few memories from 2011 that you’d rather not relive in 2012? The great thing about this year is it’s now officially your past which means any dating mistakes you made are old news and there's no better time than the present.

Who cares how many times you returned his calls when you knew better, or what you forgave that you never should have? Ladies, it’s time to move on. If you’re ready to take on the New Year with a new attitude, we’ve got the perfect pledge for you.

Follow these dating rules and we promise you’ll live your best single life in 2012. Are you ready to take the pledge? Repeat after us. I will...

*I Will Not Stay In On Holidays Just Because I'm Single
When it comes to your social life, be proactive, not reactive. Whether you’re the first one to RSVP for this year’s Cupid Sucks party, or the one hosting next year’s New Year’s Eve bash, we’re sure there’s lots of options better than “just staying home”.

*I Will Not Respond If He Texts Instead of Calls
Let’s face it, you don’t text the ones you love, you call them. If he can’t take five minutes for you, why even give him five seconds?

*I Will Date With a Purpose
If you’re not interested, don’t waste his time, or yours. It’s as simple as that. No one benefits from going on a date with someone who really has zero interest in getting to know the other better. Use the time to do what you really want to do.

*I Will Not Apologize for My Success
You’ve worked very hard for all the accomplishments and success in your life and any man worth your time will recognize that it’s something to be proud of, not apologetic for.
If he expects you to be less of a woman, he’s obviously less of a man. Red Flag alert!!

*I Will Recognize a Good Man When I See Him
Did you ever stop to wonder if "Mr. Right" was the man standing next to "Mr. Right Now" the night you approached him at the bar? It’s very possible. This year, be prepared to recognize a quality man when you see him.

*I Will Not Stop Living My Life
Hiding out in the house on Friday nights aka "Date night" is officially out of the question. When your girls call, you will answer and make it a point to go out and enjoy the perks of single life, rather than obsess about the downers.

*I Will Not Wait for His Phone Call
Maybe he’ll call. Maybe he won’t. It doesn’t matter, because you won’t be obsessively checking your phone to find out. Tuck that iPhone or Blackberry in your bag and get on with your day. He can always leave a message.

*I Won't Make Excuses for Him
“He was going to but he…” “He meant well but…” “He said he’ll make it up to me because…” Sound familiar? If you have to start a sentence with any of the aforementioned phrases, you’re in TROUBLE!! Ban them from your vocabulary in the New Year.


*I Won't Settle for Less Than I Deserve
Start the year with a renewed sense of self worth and appreciation. The ultimate show of confidence is standing by the goals you’ve set and the choices you make. If he doesn’t fit the bill, believe in your decision to seek what’s best for you moving forward.

*I Will Believe in Love
If you’re not giving up on your career goals, you shouldn’t pass on your plans for love either. A goal is a goal and just like all the others ones you set, at first you must believe.

*I Will Not Call Any Ex from 2011
You know what they say, it’s always wise to leave the past in the past. Remember, you two called it quits for a reason. You can’t move forward if you’re stuck in reverse.

*I Will Not Look at Myself As A Third Wheel
Your married friends like to have fun too. Passing on spending time with your close girlfriends just because you don’t share a relationship status with them is just silly. Conventional wisdom says surround yourself with what you want to have in your life, don’t avoid it.

*I Will Look Pretty for Me, Not Him
Book a regular Mani/Pedi or a Spa retreat because you want to look and feel your most fabulous. The only person you should aim to impress. .is YOURSELF!!

@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Good Riddance!!

Today is "Good Riddance" Day!!
Out with the OLD and head into the NEW. .2012!!



Today is the day to let go of ALL of the extra that occurred in 2011. 
So SophistiKats. .get out those no good Valentine's day cards, unwanted gifts, delete those cell numbers that are no longer being used, messages, and emails. Say GOODBYE to anything and anyone who caused you to be BLUE in 2011!!

Break out the shredder, trash can, hammers, or WHATEVER you will need to say "Good Riddance"!! 

This is a Pre-New Year tradition that has been going on for some time now and one that I think is neat. Let's adopt this, add it to our traditions, and move forward to happier days in the NEW YEAR!!

LET's GO!! Good Riddance ;")
@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

"You might not be rich. .But you're a Philanthropist"

Hi SophistiKat's!! 
Many of you know by now how much I just LOVE Essence.com!! 
Another favorite column of mine is that of "The Write or Die Chick" Janelle Harris. 
This was a wonderful article about giving back and a wake up for some of us who don't know the difference between "Charity" and "Philanthropy".
Check it out!!

Written for Essence.com by Janelle Harris



I’m always negotiating with homeless folks, and my daughter hates it. Last Sunday, as we were picking up our pizza for that disheartening Jets and Eagles game, a man approached me while I was in line.

“Hey sister,” he started (cause you know they always hit you with the “sista” to soften the blow before they put in their request) “You have a dollar you can give me?”

I remember when folks used to ask for a nickel, a dime, a quarter. Now they’re asking for whole dollars? In southeast DC? Plenty of times, I barely had that much in my wallet for my doggone self, much less to be handing it out. But if my checking account isn’t running on fumes, I’m always willing to help. I didn’t have cash, I told him, but I’d be happy to buy him something to eat. He asked for a personal pan, I paid for it and we wished each other happy holidays.

When I got to the car, I was in trouble. “Why do you always do that?” my daughter scolded. “He’s a grown man. He needs to be able to take care of himself.” Hmph. What you won’t do, I told her, is be sadiddy about somebody else’s circumstances, particularly when you’re burning through my money by leaving every light on in the house and throwing perfectly good food away because it doesn’t tickle your fancy that particular day. But I digress.

I give, I told her, because it’s the right thing to do and because I was raised to see the power in sharing blessings. I give because it’s part of my culture. Say what you want about Black folks -- we have always rallied around each other and taken care of us. We can be our own worst enemy and we have our issues, our hang-ups, and Lord knows we have our fair share of nuts, crazies and straight-up disappointments, but we are a community. Taking care of one another is part of who we are as a people.

When someone is sick or passes away, you can best believe there will follow shortly thereafter a string of ladies with foiled-covered hot dishes and a comforting word. If some man is out under his car trying to play mechanic, you can watch a little cluster of other dudes assemble around him, if only to hand him tools and offer tentative wisdom. I can’t even think of how many times there’s been some poor, drug-addicted or neglected child with a mama that just can’t get it together who’s adopted by an auntie or a grandmother or a neighborhood lady and loved on like he or she was her own. We are natural-born caretakers.

When you look at a list of some of the most active philanthropists in the world, recognizable Black names are there. There are the Bill and Camille Cosbys and the Russell Simmonses and the Holly Robinson and Rodney Peetes, and a heap of other celebrities who lend their big names and even bigger money to causes near and dear to their hearts. And that makes me proud that they’re using their notoriety and good fortune to create positive change. But there are also the everyday folks, the Big Mamas and the Keishas and the Mr. Whitakers from down the block who, in their own special but significant ways, take from their own households and their own time and their own pockets to help others. They don’t have a lot. But they spread what they do have selflessly and willingly. And that to me is even more special than somebody with millions to throw around and write off come tax time.

There’s a difference between charity and philanthropy. Charity is a one-time hit and quit for a particular cause, like writing a check for the American Red Cross during the Katrina cleanup or randomly buying a man a personal pan pizza in the store. It’s a good thing -- don’t get me wrong. But philanthropy is the building block for lasting change. It’s ongoing and it’s an investment in improving whatever community it’s assigned to improve. That’s exactly what we do, except we don’t label it “philanthropy,” especially during the holidays. We just call it taking care of home. 
@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

Today in Black History

*Kwanzaa

Third* Day of Kwanzaa  "Ujima" (Collective Work and Responsibility)
 To build and maintain our community together and make our brothers' and sisters' problems our problems, and to solve them together.


1816*
American Colonization Society organized in hall of the House of Representatives .


1829*

Born into slavery, Elizabeth "Mumbet" Freeman ran away from her owners after mistreatment by her master's wife. She petitioned successfully for her freedom, citing her knowledge of the Bill of Rights and the new constitution of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts. Her argument was that all men were created equal, thereby justifying her petition for freedom. Her victory effectively abolished slavery in Massachusetts. Freeman was the great-grandmother of W.E.B. DuBois, one of America's most renowned scholars, leaders, and fighters for civil rights. She died on this day.


1897*
C. V. Richey invents the Fire Escape Bracket (Patent No. 596,427)


1905*

Famed Jazz musician and father of "Modern Jazz Piano" Earl "Fatha" Hines was born on this day.


1918*

The "Spingarn Medal" was awarded to William Stanley Braithwaite. A poet, literary critic and editor. This honor was bestowed beyond him due to his distinguished achievements in literature.


1918*

Sixty Blacks were reported lynched in 1918.


1918*

George H. White, the last of the post Reconstruction congressman of Philadelphia died on this day.


1954*

Actor Denzel Washington was born on this day in Mount Vernon, NY. Washington has starred in such films as "Malcolm X", "Glory", "Mo' Better Blues", and " A Soldier's Story". He also had a start in television on the popular show "St. Elsewhere". He's won an Academy Award for best "Supporting Actor" for his role in "Glory" and "Best Actor" for his role "Training Day".


1977*
Karen Farmer became the first African American member of "The Daughters of the American Revolution" when she traced her ancestry back to William Hood, a solider in the Revolutionary War.
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Monday, December 26, 2011

SophistiKat's "Slow Jam of the Week"



Yes!! I am excited YET again to see another one of my RECENT Jams with a video!!

I remember my first time hearing this song was while down in Atlanta at Reign (a new Hott Spot)!! My girls and I were Jamming. .and from then on. .it was another "Repeater" on my playlist.

CAUTION: Ladies it's definitely a sexy song and the lyrics are SOMETHING else. .LoL!!

Here's Fat Joe feat Breezy aka Chris Brown "Another Round" ;")

Enjoy
@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Today in Black History

1834*

Mother Matelda Beasley who founded the Sisters of the Third Order of Saint Francis, the first African American order of nuns in Georgia was born on this day.


1870*
Robert H. Wood was elected mayor of Natchez in Mississippi


1870*

Jefferson F. Long of Macon, Georgia was elected to an unexpired term in the 41st Congress. Georgia Democrats carried the state election with a campaign of violence and political intimidation.


1875*

Carter G Woodson known as "The Father of Black History" was born on this day


1893*

"Oak and Ivy" by Paul Lawrence Dunbar published on this day


1956*

On this day the African American community of Montgomery, Alabama voted unanimously to end its 385 day bus boycott.


1981*

"Dream Girls" opened at the Imperial Theater on Broadway on this day.


1983*

Julius Erving scored his 25,000th career point becoming the 9th professional basketball player to achieve this mark.


1988*

Max Robinson who joined ABC's "World News Tonight" and became the First African American network anchor, died on this day of complications from AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome) in Washington, DC.

SophistiKat's "Jam of the Week"



So yesterday I was doing a little channel surfing on my off day. .and just as I was about to flip past #MTVJams I see Llloyd. .and low and behold it's one of MY JAMS!!

This has been a "Repeater" on my playlist for months and it of course features TRIGGA!! Yes Ladies. .Trey Songz ;") Yes Glory!!

With all that being said I'm following right behind #MTVJams and adding this as our "SophistiKat's" Jam of the Week. .

Lloyd featuring Trey Songz and Young Jeezy "Be The One"

Enjoy

@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

Wednesday, December 14, 2011

SophistiKat's "Dessert of the Month"

For the December installment of "SophistiKat's Dessert of the Month" I present an all time favorite dessert from one of my FAVorite female entrepreneurs.

B. Smith is one of the most known female entrepreneurs in the African American community. Known as the "Black Martha Stewart" she has got it GOING ON!! She has her hands in every pot!! Modeling, hosting her own TV show "B. Smith with Style", a line of home products, and of course her own restaurant"B. Smith's". 

A Favorite dessert for the Holiday season (and in most families year round) is Red Velvet Cake. This delicious treat is also a menu favorite at B. Smith's restaurant. 
(If you haven't been, then in 2012 put a trip to D.C. on your calendar and make sure you stop in.  Try my favorites and have you some Sweet Spiced Wings, Fried Green Tomatoes, and RED  VELVET CAKE!! Mmph ;") makes my mouth water!!)

For those who won't be headed that way. .I present the recipe for you to whip right on up in your kitchens at home for this Holiday.


"B. Smith's Red Velvet Cake"

Cake
2 cups cake flour
3 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
2 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
3/4 cup (1 1/2 sticks) butter, softened
1 3/4 cups sugar
4 large eggs
1 cup milk
3 teaspoons red food coloring
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Buttercream Frosting 

Buttercream Frosting
6 cups powdered sugar
1 cup (2 sticks) butter, softened
4 to 6 tablespoons heavy cream
2 teaspoons vanilla extract


Directions
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. 
Grease and flour two 9-inch cake pans. 
In a large bowl, stir together the flour, cocoa, baking powder, and salt. In another large bowl, cream together the butter and sugar until light and fluffy. 
Beat in the eggs one at a time. 
In a small bowl, combine the milk, food coloring, and vanilla. Using a spatula, fold into the egg mixture the flour mixture alternating with the liquids, ending with the dry ingredients. 
Mix all the ingredients together until light and fluffy. 
Pour the batter into the pans and bake about 30 to 35 minutes or until a toothpick comes out clean.
Cool in pans 5 minutes before turning out onto racks.

*When the cakes are completely cool, frost with Buttercream Frosting between the layers, on the sides, and on top of the cake.
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@TheSophistiKats

Monday, December 12, 2011

On The Rise

So. .A week ago we received a new Follower on Twitter.
Now you all know how much we LOVE music of all genre's. I especially was excited to see that the person was a artist and from the South. 


With a Smooth and Soulful sound Winston Warrior is DEFinitely on his way to making his mark in the industry.

This Atlanta native is no stranger however to music. He started out in the group "Lo'Profile" which produced  2 Hit singles "Play Melody" and "Missing You". The group however didn't last long but that didn't stop Winston from continuing on the road to success and making his dream of a return to the industry a reality. Graduating with a degree in Business from the University of Miami he gained a lot of experience in production and performance. Over the past year he has been working hard and definitely making his presence known through out the South and across the nation.




His latest project "Lifeology 101" is one you will pop in and listen to from start to finish. .and maybe repeat a few songs in between. .LoL!! My personal favorites are "Winner", "Willin to Work 4 It",  "Crossroads", "Tuck You In", and of course "Bad 4 U".

Visit iTunes and purchase your copy of "Lifeology 101" http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/lifeology-101/id419202455 

Also Follow Him on Twitter @WinstonWarrior

Support this Brother!!

@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

Natural SophistiKat's




Making the decision to take the journey from relaxed hair back to your naturally textured hair is tough. Some women decide to do "The Big Chop" while others simply do the "Transition".

About 7 years ago I decided to go natural. I did not want to cut all of my hair off so I decided to go with the "Transition". Over the course of 3 years I began to embrace my new natural hair. (Now don't get me wrong it was rough!! )

Dealing with the relaxed hair as your new natural hair grows back is a hard process and very frustrating. You have to develop your own routine for keeping your natural hair on point and manageable You have to continuously keep your hair washed, conditioned, trimmed, and most importantly moisturized (because natural hair is a lot dryer than relaxed hair).

Since then I have gone back to wearing a relaxer. I feel like it is the best choice for me and allows me more freedom and manageability.

However for all my SophistiKat's out there going through the transition "Miss Jessie's" has you covered.

This YouTube video highlights one of the BEST hairstyles for a Transitioning* Diva the "Dry Twist Out" and it features one of their top selling products "Baby Buttercreme". In this video it takes you step by step on how to achieve this HoTT and popular look. It's also a wonderful protective style for this time of the year. (The winter is usually a rough time for Black Hair).

We will continue to keep you posted on the LATEST in Natural Hair care and products.

Please visit and support Miko and Titi Branch (The Founders of Miss Jessie's) by visiting their website
http://www.missjessies.com/ or Follow them on Twitter @Miss_Jessies

Who knows I might be Naturalista again sometime soon.

Enjoy

@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

Sunday, December 11, 2011

SophistiKat's "Jam of the Week"


I've been BUZZING all week about this SONG and told the rest of the SophistiKat's about it.
We ALL just LOVE us some Diggy and this song!!

So he has added some age appropriate (for us that is) sexiness to the song with Jeremih aka Mr. iLike (Yes Lawd!!)

Here is Diggy's new single "Do It Like You". .

All I have to say is. .Rev. Run better put a leash on young Diggy. .because I know the girls and cougars are on him!! LoL!!

Enjoy

@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Today in Black History

1885*

Seventy-four Blacks reported lynched in 1885.


1895*

Sir Milton Margai. The first Prime Minister of Sierra Leone was born on this day


1941*

Novelist Richard Wright was presented the Spingarn Medal on this day, being "one of the most powerful of contemporary writer," for "his powerful depiction in his books, "Uncle Tom's Children", and "Native Son", of the effect of proscription, segregation and denial of opportunities to the American Negro."


1941*

Lester Granger named executive director of the National Urban League.


1941*

Dorie Miller of Waco, Texas, messman on USS Arizona, manned machine gun during Pearl Harbor attacks and downed four planes. He was awarded the Navy Cross.


1942*

Reginald F. Lewis was born on this day in Baltimore, Maryland. He received his law degree from Harvard Law School in 1968. He was a partner in Murphy, Thorpe & Lewis, the first Black law firm on Wall Street. In 1989 he became president and CEO of TLC Beatrice International Holding Inc. With TLC's leverage acquisition of Beatrice International Food Company, Lewis became the head of the largest Black-owned business in the United States. TLC Beatrice had revenues of $1.54 billion in 1992.


1972*

W. Sterling Cary elected president of the Nation Council of Churches.


1981*
John Jacobs is named president of the National Urban League

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SophistiKat's "Drink of the Month"

Hey SophistiKat's!! 
With one holiday down and Christmas to go before the New Year we wanted to bring you a drink that would fit both occasions. Cranberry is one of the most requested juices to mix with any cocktail. It adds the proper mix of tang and sweetness for the perfect blend. With that being said here is a Sparkling yet Sophisticated blend to wrap up your Holiday Season and Bring in the New Year with a BANG!!

The Cranberry Champagne Cocktail 



Ingredients
1 Ounce Cranberry Juice (sweetened)
1 Wedge Lime
1 Champagne or Sparkling Wine
1 Container of Cranberries (frozen)

Directions
In a chilled Champagne flute add cranberry juice and a squeeze of lime. 
Top off the glass with Champagne. 
Garnish with 3 or 4 cranberries.

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@TheSophistiKats

SophistiKat's Dose of "Hip Hop"


For your enjoyment we bring you an outstanding Indie Hip Hop artist Tabi Bonney. 
Most of you recognize the name from producing and directing video's for Maybach Music Group and DMV native Wale. Also 2 of his hit singles "The Pocket" and "Doin IT" featuring none other than MY Boo Mr. Raheem Devaughn @368Hustlers.

Tabi is the epitome of a young "Renaissance Man". He has 2 degrees from Florida A&M University (Go Rattlers!!) a Bachelor's in Pre-Med and Masters in Biology. Mmph!! Sounds like this Brother might be adding "Doctor" to his list of accomplishments. Also he is into Fashion and Design with his clothing line "Booney Runway". Talking about Ambition ;")

Here is his 1st single off of "A Place Called Stardom". ."Nuthin But A Hero"!!
Follow Tabi on Twitter @tabiBONNEY

Enjoy~*

@TNBeautyQueen
@TheSophistiKats

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Happy Thanksgiving



From Everyone here at The Sophisticate Chronicles we wish you. .
a very Blessed and Happy Thanksgiving!!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Drake: Take Care

I became a fan of Drake's after the release of his first studio album "Thank Me Later" but his sophomore album "Take Care" is the reason why I am now a die hard fan. Each track is proof that Drake gave this album his all. He gives something in this album that no other rapper gives and that is bonafide versatility; he fluctuates from rapping to singing and let me tell you, he does a damn good job at both. Take Care is one of those albums that you are able to listen to from start to finish without skipping a song, and that within itself says a lot.

Every last one of his tracks are the bomb, but there are two songs that stood out to me the most.

Track #1 "Over My Dead Body" which features Canadian singer-songwriter and pianist Chantal Kreviazuk. In this song, Drake delivers something different and refreshing. Chantal sings the hook and its so catchy, I love it, and her sound is so alluring. Superb choice, perfect collaboration!

Track #16  "Practice" uses the beat and chorus from the song "Back That Ass Up" which was released in 1999 by Cash Money's former member Juvenile. This track keeps you on the edge of your seat, because it has you thinking that he's going to deliver a rap verse, but instead he bursts into song, singing "Girl you look good won't chu back that a** up...." The song doesn't consist of much vocal activity, it's just mostly instrumental.

Drake is a musical genius! I don't know too many rappers with legendary singer Stevie Wonder featured on their album. Speaking of Stevie Wonder, Drake had a kick ass selection of producers that consists of Lex Luger, Just Blaze, canadian hip hop producers Noah "40" Shebib, and Boi-1da.

Just goes to show that Drake doesn't play about his product, and it also shows that QUALITY is very important to him. This man delivered!

Support and go purchase the album this week.....help raise those album sales!

@HoneyBLove

14* Relationship Mistakes to Avoid

Written By: Paul Carrick Brunson for Essence.com 


Today’s post is special. In order to get the most researched answers on “relationship pitfalls,” I went to the authorities in the category: the guys over at 100 Red Flags. 100Redflags.com is a website dedicated to helping women understand the little signals they sometimes unconsciously send to men that turn them off and show incompatibility.

What I like about these guys is that they’re not just men speaking from their immediate experiences they’ve actually gone out and extensively surveyed “everyday” men over several years instead of just using a sampling of men like other studies often do.

I sat down with the founders Bill and Ryan and asked them about the top relationship pitfalls for women and the responses were fascinating. Ladies, are you ready to hear them? Grab a cup of something good to drink and get your read on! (Taking notes is encouraged.)

It might be a red flag to him when you…

You Wear Too Much Makeup

Doing so implies to a man that you may lack self-confidence. Looking good isn’t all about trying to achieve perfection. It isn’t about caking your face with so much makeup that you look like someone else. No man wants to wake up in the morning to find your makeup all over the sheets. Think: More confidence, less makeup.

You Check Your Phone Constantly

This is disrespectful to the man you’re on a date with. When your man is around, try to keep your smart phone addiction hidden. It makes you seem obsessive-compulsive when you’re always peeking down at your phone or you leave it out on the table. It’s annoying, and it makes him feel less important. Just throw it in your bag and enjoy yourself.

You Talk Nonstop About Work

There are more interesting things in life to discuss than how much it sucks to fill out reports every day. If all you can talk about is your job, that means you lead a very boring life and you won’t be much fun to hang around with.

You Don't Support Guy Time

Doing this will instantly make you appear insecure and controlling. Whoa there, Missy. You’re messing with one of the sacred man rituals now. It’s a necessity, not an option. Instead of ranting and raving about our guys’ night, put that energy to positive use and go out with your girls.

You Drink a Lot of Champagne

This could mean you’re too materialistic; too focused on status. The last thing men want is to be involved in a relationship where money and status is more important than anything else. What if we can’t make a buck? What if we don’t have the biggest house in our neighborhood? Will you want the guy in the huge house with a pool down the street? Your choice of beverage is painting this
picture of our future life together.

You're Clumsy or Awkward

This says that our sexual compatibility is in question. When we’re up, you’re down. We try to connect because we’re attracted to each other, but something just seems off. If we’re not connecting on the dance floor, how are we going to connect in the bedroom? To increase flexibility and become more in touch with your body consider a dance or yoga class.

You Want Another Tattoo

This could tell him you’re not done living your youth. Like it or not, your tattoo says more than you intended. He’ll wonder if it was just a one-time things or if your wild side could return just as he’s starting to like you?

You're All About You (and Your Pet!)

If you’re guilty of this, it may tell a guy who wants to get serious that your timetable for having kids is at odds with his. This may seem innocent, but it can be overkill. How are we supposed to compete with that playful, furry, and loyal friend who probably came before us? We’re not sure we’re ready to take on the responsibility for this pet, especially because we know what’s on your mind next a baby.

You Don't Eat Leftovers

This means you could be financially irresponsible. The truth is, your staunch refusal to eat leftovers goes far beyond being a little weird. Let’s put it this way… you’re throwing out food. So if you’re throwing out a necessary component for survival where else are you choosing an “ideal” over a “this will do”?

Your Party Photos Are All Over the Web

If he sees your photos all over nightclub and party sites, he’ll think you’re a party girl and will be unable to settle down. It’s cool that you go to clubs. But there’s a difference between just going to clubs and being a club regular. It’s a recipe for disaster if you’re trying to hold down a relationship.

You're Short on Bridesmaids

This means you might be too needy, and we won’t be able to be independent of each other. First of all, having two sisters and one friend doesn’t count. When men see a lack of close friends in your life it is cause for concern. Will you get pissed off every time we want to hang out with our friends? Will you be latching onto us every time we’re out with each other?

You Get Dressed Up for Sporting Events

This could tell a man that you’re unable to adapt to different situations. Beware of how you dress at sporting events because if you send the wrong message your man may go running. If you’re more focused on looking “cute”, when everyone around you is dressed comfortably, it says you can’t relax. We have visions of waking up in the morning to grab breakfast with you pulling on the back of our sweats as we’re walking out the door. saying, “You’re not wearing that, are you?” Ditch the fancy outfit and just relax.

You Complain Constantly



No man likes constant negativity, period. Negative attitudes can be the death of a relationship, especially when the other half naturally has a positive attitude. Everyone could, if they wanted to, complain about their day. There are good things and bad things that happen to all of us. When we talk to you after a hard day’s work, we don’t want to spend all our time consoling you and making you feel better. What about our day?


You Have Daddy Issues

Men assume that women who don’t call their fathers either have bad dads, no dads, or bad relationships with their dads. None of those perceptions work in your favor. Never pay so much attention to a guy that you forget about your family.

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