The "Modern Day Matchmaker" Paul C. Brunson is at it again and getting us IN ORDER for the NEW YEAR. .2013!!
For my single ladies out there. .these are just a few of many "ole school" rules to live by.
Chivalry IS NOT dead we just have to stick to our standards and allow REAL men to show and prove just that ;") Check these out. .
Always Look Your Best
Attraction is very primal. We’re attracted to “good looks.” That said, you never know when you may meet that special someone at the supermarket, gas station or on the street. If you always look your best, you’ll always stand the best chance of securing a date.
Confidence Is Sexy
Men love a woman with confidence. Be sure to smile, keep your back straight, listen attentively, walk with your shoulders back and speak slowly. This will make you seem confident, even if you are quivering with nervousness inside.
Bad Breath Kills
Nothing kills chances of a kiss, or a second date, like bad breath. If your breathy conversation has been malodorous, chances are your date will likely extend you a hand at the end of the evening. Visit the dentist regularly, practice healthy brushing habits at home and always carry mints!
We Show Our Respect With Our Time
If he’s 5-10 minutes late, he may be pulling a Diddy, and trying to make an entrance. However, 10 minutes plus, with no phone call, is simply rude. Multiple incidents like this show you exactly how much respect he has for your time.
Gentleman Offer to Pay
This rule will be debated for the next 1000 years, and for the next 1000 years the answer will be the same. If he’s a gentleman, he’ll offer to pay on the first date (regardless of who asks). If he doesn’t, it doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy, but it does mean his chivalry skills are lacking.
Good Manners Are Telling
We should all know that having good manners and saying “please” and “thank you” never ever goes out of style, especially on a date.
Why Buy the Cow, When You Can Get the Milk for Free?
Don’t rush sexual intimacy. Early sex is one surefire way to ruin a relationship. Make him prove his love for you before you get intimate. This rule is gospel!
Know When It's On To the Next One
Don’t make excuses! If he doesn’t call after the first date, he’s not interested. Move on. Creating a fantasy is a waste of time.
Ain’t Nothin’ Open After Midnight ‘Cept Legs
Don’t accept requests for late meetings with your new guy. If he has respect for you and your time, he will make plans for a more decent dating hour. Otherwise, beware that he’s only looking for a booty call.
Body Language Says More
Avoid fidgeting with your hair or clothes; this signals insecurity. Remember that only one third of communication is about the words you speak.
No "Your Mama" Talk
Avoid criticizing his mom (or yours). This will cause anyone to become defensive – or view you as not being family oriented – which is popular non-negotiable.
Don't Offer Too Much Too Early
People like people they can’t figure out in one evening. Don’t divulge too much and keep your dates short. Short dates will keep him longing for more.
Honesty Is the Best Policy
Drama is avoided when we tell the truth. There must be a balance you strike with this rule and the former because omitting the truth is also lying.
A Man Without A Plan Isn't Ready for You
If you find yourself having the “what do you want to do tonight” conversation on the first, second and third dates, chances are, he’s just not that into you.
Be A Lady
Even if you can fart Amazing Grace without missing a beat, avoid boasting about this on your first date. Trust me, even if he is crass with his boys, he will find vulgarity unappealing in the woman he is dating.
You Will Kiss A Few Frogs Before You Meet Your Prince
Do not be discouraged when it seems that your dates have never lead to anything meaningful. That’s what dating is about, going out with new people to get to know more about your likes and deal breakers and to get better at your own social skills. Your prince is out there!
Phone Calls Win
Modern technology has provided a million and one ways to contact potential dates – email, text, Facebook message, and by tweet to name a few. No matter how far technology advances, the phone call will always be the best way to connect (aside from in-person). All methods other than by phone are simply not as brave, direct or clear.
It's What He Does, Not What He Says
Actions speak louder than words… PERIOD!
Unveiling Vulnerability = Love
When they show you they are vulnerable, that’s when they show you they’re in love. He has let his guard down to let you in.
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