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Single SophistiKat's Guide to the New Year

It is a New day and a New YEAR!! Some of us are in committed relationships. .some engaged. .some married. .and well some of us are still SINGLE and FABulous. I am in the Single and FAB category and wanted to share a few tips with my ladies on how to operate in this year. Old patterns have to cease and we have to move forward renewed and open for all that life and 2014 has to offer us. One of my FAV writers Charli Penn for Essence.com has broken it down in the perfect list for us. .Take notes. .Take the Pledge. .and Let's GO!!

Written for Essence.com
By: Charli Penn






















I Will Not Apologize for My Success
You’ve worked very hard for all the accomplishments and success in your life and any man worth your time will recognize that it’s something to be proud of, not apologetic for. If he expects you to be less of a woman, he’s obviously less of a man. Red flag alert.


I Will Not Respond If He Texts Instead of Calls
Let’s face it, you don’t text the ones you love, you call them. If he can’t take five minutes for you, why even give him five seconds?


I Will Not Stop Living My Life
Hiding out in the house on Friday nights — aka date night — is officially out of the question. When your girls call, you will answer and make it a point to go out and enjoy the perks of single life, rather than obsess about the downers.


I Will Not Wait for His Phone Call
Maybe he’ll call. Maybe he won’t. It doesn’t matter, because you won’t be obsessively checking your phone to find out. Tuck that iPhone in your bag and get on with your day. He can always leave a message.


I Won't Make Excuses for Him
“He was going to but he…” “He meant well but…” “He said he’ll make it up to me because…” Sound familiar? If you have to start a sentence with any of the aforementioned phrases, you’re in trouble. Ban them from your vocabulary in the New Year.


I Will Date With a Purpose
If you’re not interested, don’t waste his time, or yours. It’s as simple as that. No one benefits from going on a date with someone who really has zero interest in getting to know you better. Use the time to do what you really want to do.


I Will Believe in Love
If you’re not giving up on your career goals, you shouldn’t pass on your plans for love either. A goal is a goal and just like all the other ones you set, at first you must believe.


I Will Recognize a Good Man When I See Him
Did you ever stop to wonder if Mr. Right wasn’t the man standing next to Mr. Right Now the night you approached him at the bar? It’s very possible. This year, be prepared to recognize a good men when you see him.


I Will Not Stay In On Holidays Just Because I'm Single
When it comes to your social life, be proactive, not reactive. Whether you’re the first one to RSVP for this year’s Cupid Sucks party, or the one hosting next year’s New Year’s Eve bash, we’re sure there’s lots of options better than “just staying home.”


I Won't Settle for Less Than I Deserve
Start the year with a renewed sense of self worth and appreciation. The ultimate show of confidence is standing by the goals you’ve set and the choices you make. If he doesn’t fit the bill, believe in your decision to seek what’s best for you moving forward.


I Will Not Call Any Ex from 2013
You know what they say, it’s always wise to leave the past in the past. Remember, you two called it quits for a reason. You can’t move forward if you’re stuck in reverse.


I Will Not Look at Myself As A Third Wheel
Your married friends like to have fun too. Passing on spending time with your close girlfriends just because you don’t share a relationship status with them is just silly. Conventional wisdom says surround yourself with what you want to have in your life — you don’t avoid it.


I Will Look Pretty for Me, Not Him
Book a regular mani-pedi or a spa retreat because you want to look and feel your most fabulous. The only person you should aim to impress is yourself.

I don't know about you but a lot of these things I have already been doing. .time for us to step it up a notch and accept only the BEST!!

@TheeSophistiKat

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