Friendship is a vital part of Life. As we grow we meet new people. .and experience new things together. A dear friend of mine and I chatted earlier today and the topic of how few and far between it it for black women to sustain relationships. .let alone friendships with other women being at the top of the list. God blesses us with Real and True friends til the end. .but we have to work at it just like anything else in our lives. I found this list by one of our favorite writers for Essence.com Charli Penn and felt it was vital for me to share. We are all at fault at some point in time of 1 or more of these things. .so here's something to give us a boost to do BETTER and be thankful for our lifetime treasure. .Our Friends
Written By: Charli Penn for Essence.com
Have you fallen behind on your return phone calls and emails? Ever caught yourself asking for more help than you’ve given out? Do you owe a friend a favor? If you just answered, “yes” all around, let’s face it, you could be a better friend.
Before you start beating yourself up, Seriously don’t! Remember that you’re not a bad person, you just need to step it up a bit.
Here are 9* things you can do to become a better friend right now.
Let Them Lean on You
Sometimes the best and only thing you can do to ease someone’s pain is to just let them hold on to you. Being there always makes a difference.
Get Off Your Butt
It’s Friday night and she wants to go out on the town. Trouble is, you’d rather stick to your usual routine and curl up to a good movie instead. Go! She’ll be so happy to have the company for a change
Keep it Real
A real friend won’t fault you for your honesty. If her new hair cut is atrocious, or she’s put on more pounds than she thinks, tell her. (Nicely of course.) A good friend won’t lie to you to keep the peace, they’ll tell you the truth even if it disturbs it.
Learn to Share
Share what’s going on in your world, don’t keep your drama to yourself. Hiding your feelings and thoughts from a true friend keeps them from getting close to you. It’s not smart not to let anyone in if you want to have a mutually beneficial friendship.
Lend Her a Hand
Is your girlfriend behind on her weekend errands? Maybe her husband’s sick and she’s got kids and could use a little extra help around the house? Get in there and lend her a hand. She’ll be so appreciative.
You don’t always need to spend a lot of money to have a really good time together. Host a laid back and low budget evening of fun at your house and watch the good times roll in.
Make Her Laugh
Everyone needs a good laugh, preferably on a regular basis. If you have a friend who has been down on her luck and feeling out of sorts, it’s your job to get her mind off things, if only for a moment.
Have Her Back
Nobody likes to get involved in other people’s drama, but there is a thin line here when it’s a close friend who’s having problems. If she needs you try to be there for her as best you can as long as you don’t feel uncomfortable with what she’s asking you to do.
Let Her Make Mistakes
As tempting as it may be to say “I told you so” every time a friend falls on her face after you warned her of a bump up ahead, you shouldn’t. Show her you can support her when she’s right and when she’s wrong. Judgmental friends are untrue.