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Friendship Rules (About Guys) Never To Break

We often have conversations about "The Rules". It can be almost similar to walking on egg shells sometimes when it comes to dealing with one of your "Girl's" man. I tell you we have all had issues over the years when it has come to this topic but here is everything summed up in 10* simple rules from one of our Favorite Essence.com contributors Charli Penn!! Check it Out!!



There can be a very thin line between best friendships and romantic relationships and crossing it will almost always cause unwanted drama.

It's important to know where you stand. .ALWAYS!! Whether you're both in a relationship, or one of you is still looking for love, these rules always apply.

Do you know the rules?


Leave the Exes Alone
If she ever loved (even liked) him, you shouldn’t even consider him romantically. (The situation will only turn out to be messy and eventually you might loose a friend)


Give Them Their Space
If a good friend is in a serious relationship and having trouble choosing between you or him, don’t make it hard on her. Give them the space they need to build a healthy, happy relationship.


Always Keep it Real
You know how the motto goes: If you see something, say something. Keeping a secret about the guy your friend is dating will only end badly. Fess up and clear your conscience.


Try to Get Along With Him
Whether he’s the one you would have chose for her or not, you’re still going to have to play nice. Give him a chance and try not to hold things against her guy before you’ve had a chance to really get to know him.


Dress Appropriately
If you’re around a friend’s man you should never be dressed as if you’re trying to land one of your own. if you’re showing more leg or cleavage than she is, that’s a problem!


Call Her First
If you have something to say to a friend’s husband or boyfriend, you should bring it to her first. You may have a bone to pick with him, but she deserves the courtesy of a heads up.


Supper Her Decisions
If she’s happy, and not hurting, you should be happy for her. .Case closed. It’s not your life, so don’t get too emotionally invested in a friend’s situation.


Watch What You Say
If a friend is dealing with a tough time with her man, she will inevitably want to call you and vent. It’s okay to provide a shoulder to lean on, but don’t jump on the bad-mouthing bandwagon if you don’t mean what you say. She’ll remember the things you said long after she’s forgotten those he said.


Don't Get Too Close
You should NEVER, EVER, under any circumstances, bad mouth your friend to her man!! Even if you’re really upset with her in that moment, he’s not the person you should be venting with. Go to her!!


Keep Things Between You and Her
Your friend may wind up telling you more intimate details about her relationship or her man than he would like.  .It happens. The worst thing you can do is accidentally bring up something around him that you had NO business knowing in the first place.

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